I wrote this post not only for those who have broken hearts out there but also to share my experience.
I’ve been through a lot lately. And trust me it’s not that easy.
I’ve been hurt to the point that when i look at myself in the mirror, all i see is a lady completely broken without any purpose.
I wake up everyday, get dressed, do everything normally, smile and laugh with my friends but inside i know i’m lonely.
I’m alone. I’m still broken.
One day i woke up and decided that i couldn’t live like this forever. I need to move on.
It wasn’t easy. Sometimes i wanted to give up and take a step backwards but i didn’t.
I did this not for my friends, or for the person who broke my heart, or for my family.
I did this for me.
1. It’s ok to cry.
Crying does not mean your weak. It means your strong enough to admit that you have been hurt. The first days are the worst. You wake up and everything has changed. There will be no text from him/her saying “good morning” or “eat your breakfast” or “don’t be late” or even his/ her I LOVE YOUs. You were not ready for this. It happened so fast that you wished that it was all a dream and that you would wake up soon. You cry at everything, for everything seems to be reminding you of him/her. You can relate at every love song you hear and you start to cry again. But remember “Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.”
― Dr. Seuss
2. Decide
Making the decision to move on will not be easy. You cannot decide over night, but you would gradually realize that you cannot live like this forever. Soon the crying would stop, not completely but hey its a lot better than before. It doesn’t mean that you got use to it but it means that you are now starting to let go. When you are now completely decided that you are now going to move on you have to brace yourself that the next steps won’t be easier. But it’s a start.
3. Seeking happiness
You’ll feel alone most of the time and would think that “omg i need him/her back”. If that happens remember that by saying that you are taking a step backwards. Wanting him/her back is completely normal. But you should think twice, do you really want to go back to step 1? do you wanna endure that pain again? Remember be smart. But never make someone a REBOUND! You’re now single and surely someone would really want to be with you. If this happened ask this to yourself. “are you being fair to him/her?” “do you really like him/her?”. Remember that you know the feeling of being hurt by someone. You do not want anyone to go through the hurt that you’ve been through. My suggestion is that take your time to let your heart heal and be you again. Instead of having a rebound, why not seek happiness within your family and friends. They are the people that will always be there for you no matter what. They may understand you for they may have gone through the same things.
4.Letting go
Letting go was a lot harder than i thought. At this stage you have to look back at all the wonderful things that you and him/her shared. At this stage I started to put everything that he gave me in a box. All those pictures deleted and some kept away. Those gifts that he gave me were also kept in a box. It hurts to think that all of your dreams with him will not come true. And all that is left is a box that has all the evidence that you were once happy with him/her. Those memories will only be memories and will never ever happened again. At least not with him/her. Suggestion?? leave the bad memories behind and carry with you the good once and learn from it.
5. Start a new
Now, you are wiser and stronger. Sometimes it will still hurt but remember that it takes time to move on completely. Surround yourself with positive people. Smile and remember that maybe a happy ending doesn’t include a guy or a girl, maybe it’s you, on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over, freeing yourself up for something better in the future. Maybe the happy ending is just moving on.
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