Some people say relationships are suppose to be give and take. that it should be balanced. but the truth is there’s only a few of them. most of us are in a relationship where someone keeps on giving, keeps in fighting, keeps on hoping that someday the other might do the same. if a lot has the perfect relationship a few would cry. few would be broken everyday. but in reality it’s the other way around. that’s how people love. they love selflessly. they will keep on hoping that someday they will get the love that they deserve if they keep on giving someone what they think they deserve. 

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I’m drowning

staring at an empty space, thinking what am i going to say.
a white clean space facing in front of me telling me to pour all my sadness to him.
for he will not talk, or laugh, or judge me.
he’s telling me i can forget about everything for a while and tell him what’s wrong.
So here it goes.

i wish this pain goes away.
i wish i could just wake up and everything’s ok again.
i wish i could go back to the beginning and start all over again.
i wish to be the old me again, smiling, loved, innocent, and happy.
i wish to look at myself and not see how terrible i am now.
i wish not to cry everynight asking god for a second chance.
i want to be happy.
i want this depression to go away.

Forget about what the world has to say

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So, i guess we are who we are for a lot of reasons. And maybe we will never know some of them.

 Even if we don’t have the power to choose where we come from, we can still choose where we go from there. 

Sometimes life can be a total roller coaster ride. It maybe really easy at one point but then it will come back to bite you on the ass. 

Sometimes you’ll find yourself trying to just be the person that everyone is telling you to be. You know you don’t want to but you have to because it’s much easier that way. 

You’ll end up convincing yourself that what you did was the right decision. You’ll be pretending to be happy, to be contented but actually you’re not.

Majority of the world’s population says that to be yourself is the greatest accomplishment. But how many actually do it?

Some say that’s how life goes. For if everyone is to be themselves, it would be a total chaos.

I say forget about what the world has to say.

The world wouldn’t end if you’d be the person that you want to be. It would go on with it’s own business. You’d be surprise on how much happier you’d be.

I say, eat what you want to eat. Just as you know your limits. Nobody would die by eating donuts once in a while.

Wear what you want to wear. While everyone is trying to be like the ladies on those magazines you’d be. . . YOU. Be yourself. Cause an original is worth more than a copy.

Love who you want to love. Not the one that your friends like. Not even who your parents want. They might know more than you do. But at the end of the day it’s what makes you happy that really matters. They may want only the best for you. But you’re the only person who knows what is really the best for yourself.

You only live once. Don’t waste it living up to the standards of the majority but rather yours. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinion drown your own inner voice. Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want. And most important, forget what the world has to say. 

Single??? More like happy. (being single and being happy about it)

 

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Okay so the title says it all. I’m single but who cares? I’m happy, independent and free. Yes, I wake up in the morning without anyone beside me. I cook and eat breakfast alone. I don’t have anyone to text or call if we’ll have dinner together. I go to marathons and volunteers alone. I watch movies with my friends not with just one person. So basically I wake up and go to sleep alone

Maybe that doesn’t sound like a lot of fun, but it is for me. I’ve never come home feeling less than a better, stronger person.

Being single may be one of the greatest things that happened to me.

The world is a big court room

Everyone judges you and everything you say will be used against you. 

It seems today that there must be something wrong about you if you are alone. It’s up to you if you will let that get into your head. Always remember that whatever you do people will always say something. People will always judge you. You cannot and will never please everyone. There will always be that someone who will put you down. Just remember that you are a strong and independent person who doesn’t need anyone’s approval but yourself.

 

Be Contented 

You should understand that you are good enough by yourself. the key to happiness is to expect less and be contented with what you have. Constantly remind yourself that it was your choice to be single. 

It would be easy finding someone to be with. But a better you would would not require you to  find someone and instead love would find you.

Friends + Family = Happiness 

Face it you don’t need a specific person to complete your life. Surround yourself with the people who loves you dearly and you would feel the warmth that no other person can give you except for them. They are the people who would love you for who you are and would not expect anything in return. They are the people who will not judge you no matter what you did or do. 

 

There is nothing wrong with being single. You just have to embrace it and use it to make a better you. Focus more on you and you’ll see the world in a different perspective. Not the world that everyone wants but rather the world that you want and planned it to be. 

How to move on

I wrote this post not only for those who have broken hearts out there but also to share my experience.

I’ve been through a lot lately. And trust me it’s not that easy.

I’ve been hurt to the point that when i look at myself in the mirror, all i see is a lady completely broken without any purpose.

I wake up everyday, get dressed, do everything normally, smile and laugh with my friends but inside i know i’m lonely.

I’m alone. I’m still broken.

One day i woke up and decided that i couldn’t live like this forever. I need to move on.

It wasn’t easy. Sometimes i wanted to give up and take a step backwards but i didn’t.

I did this not for my friends, or for the person who broke my heart, or for my family.

I did this for me.

 

1. It’s ok to cry.

Crying does not mean your weak. It means your strong enough to admit that you have been hurt. The first days are the worst. You wake up and everything has changed. There will be no text from him/her saying “good morning” or “eat your breakfast” or “don’t be late” or even his/ her I LOVE YOUs. You were not ready for this. It happened so fast that you wished that it was all a dream and that you would wake up soon. You cry at everything, for everything seems to be reminding you of him/her. You can relate at every love song you hear and you start to cry again. But remember “Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.”
― Dr. Seuss

 

2. Decide

Making the decision to move on will not be easy. You cannot decide over night, but you would gradually realize that you cannot live like this forever. Soon the crying would stop, not completely but hey its a lot better than before. It doesn’t mean that you got use to it but it means that you are now starting to let go. When you are now completely decided that you are now going to move on you have to brace yourself that the next steps won’t be easier. But it’s a start.

 

3. Seeking happiness

You’ll feel alone most of the time and would think that “omg i need him/her back”. If that happens remember that by saying that you are taking a step backwards. Wanting him/her back is completely normal. But you should think twice, do you really want to go back to step 1? do you wanna endure that pain again? Remember be smart. But never make someone a REBOUND! You’re now single and surely someone would really want to be with you. If this happened ask this to yourself. “are you being fair to him/her?” “do you really like him/her?”. Remember that you know the feeling of being hurt by someone. You do not want anyone to go through the hurt that you’ve been through. My suggestion is that take your time to let your heart heal and be you again. Instead of having a rebound, why not seek happiness within your family and friends. They are the people that will always be there for you no matter what. They may understand you for they may have gone through the same things.

 

4.Letting go

Letting go was a lot harder than i thought. At this stage you have to look back at all the wonderful things that you and him/her shared. At this stage I started to put everything that he gave me in a box. All those pictures deleted and some kept away. Those gifts that he gave me were also kept in a box. It hurts to think that all of your dreams with him will not come true. And all that is left is a box that has all the evidence that you were once happy with him/her. Those memories will only be memories and will never ever happened again. At least not with him/her. Suggestion?? leave the bad memories behind and carry with you the good once and learn from it.

 

5. Start a new

Now, you are wiser and stronger. Sometimes it will still hurt but remember that it takes time to move on completely. Surround yourself with positive people. Smile and remember that maybe a happy ending doesn’t include a guy or a girl, maybe it’s you, on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over, freeing yourself up for something better in the future. Maybe the happy ending is just moving on.

 

someone like you

“I’ve been searching for that someone, to show me the way, to take my hand and tell me that everything will be okay; i’ve been searching for that someone, and now i know it’s true, i’ve found that special someone, i’ve found that someone in you”

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What is love???

Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast,
it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking.
It is not easily angered,
it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil,
but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts,
always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
~I Corinthians 13:4-8

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